The mother of the bride is involved in all the arrangements, previously
listed, that enable the 'big day' to run without a hitch. In addition
she may entertain guests and help book the accommodation of guests
who have travelled long distances to attend their daughters wedding.
On the day itself she assists the bride in her preparations and
then travels to the church or civil venue with the bridesmaids leaving
the bride and brides father to travel together at a slightly later
mother of the bride does not have a role in the actual ceremony
but accompanies the groom's father to the signing of the wedding
register. The bride's mother must be one of the first guests to
arrive at the reception in order to receive her guests.
It is the proud duty of the bride' father to give his daughter away
at the wedding. He arrives at the church or venue with his daughter
and leads her up the aisle or to the agreed place at a civil venue.
If a church ceremony, the bride's father responds to the question
'who giveth this woman to be married to this man?' by passing his
daughters right hand, palm down, into the hand of the clergyman.
The father's role in the service is now complete and he may take
a seat on the front pew alongside his wife.
When it is time to sign the wedding register the bride's father
accompanies the groom's mother and finally at the end of the ceremony
they leave the church together following the bride and groom down
The bride's father must arrive at the reception first in order to
greet his guests.
the bride's father is called on by the best man, to propose a toast
to the Bride and Groom. This takes place when the wedding banquet
is finished and directly after the best mans speech. His official
role is now complete.
It is considered an honour to be asked to take on the responsibility
of being the best man at a wedding. The man chosen is usually a
close relative or friend of the groom, however it is it is not unknown,
though more unusual, for this role to be taken on by a woman friend.
main role is to take the pressure off the groom by making sure the
day runs smoothly. Listed below are the main responsibilities taken
on by the Best Man.
the bridegroom to his wedding, hopefully, on time! Once at the church
he makes sure the ushers know what they are doing.
He looks after the wedding rings.
the ceremony the best man accompanies the chief bridesmaid to the
vestry for the signing of the wedding register.
may be asked to witness the signing of the register but this is
not always the case as another witness may be chosen to fulfil this
best man helps the photographer to sort out who is required for
the photographs. He then sees the newly wedded couple off in their
car on the journey to the reception. After this he ushers guests
to their cars making sure the parents get off first then grandparents,
uncles and aunts, bridesmaids and then friends and distant relatives.
The best man is responsible for paying the marriage fees, although
this is not out of his own pocket but that of the groom.
at the reception the best man calls upon the speakers and replies
to the toast of 'The Bridesmaids' on their behalf.
Any messages or cards, usually from absent relatives and friends
are read out by the best man at the end of his speech. ( tips on
what to include in a speech are found in the section on speech making.)
The final role undertaken by the best man is to see the newly married
couple safely on their journey from the reception to their honeymoon
or venue they are to spend their first night as man and wife. Not
all couples leave the reception to go directly on honeymoon and
may have a few days in between to relax after the big day.
Bride chooses both how many bridesmaids she would like and who is
to be chosen. They are often friends of the bride or young relatives
of the bride and groom. She may also choose to have pageboys, again
chosen from young relatives of the bride and groom.
It is tradition for the mother of the bridesmaids to pay for the
outfits and accessories though it is the bride that chooses the
outfits to be worn.
The role of the bridesmaids and pages is to assist the bride from
when she arrives at the church or venue, until the time she leaves
the reception. However their involvement is minimal as there is
no official role to play in the service or ceremony except to form
the procession by following the bride up the aisle, pages followed
Sometimes a bride chooses to have a Matron of Honour. This is usually
an older married friend. Usually the Matron of Honour is the only
attendant and her role is the same as the bridesmaids.
Ushers are often brothers of the bride or groom. However they could
be another close relative or friend. What is important however is
to have equal representatives from both families and the number
of ushers required will depend on the numbers attending the wedding.
If less than 60 guests are going to be present then two ushers are
sufficient. Another two ushers may be required for larger weddings,
but there is no set rule here.
The ushers need to arrive at the wedding venue first. They greet
guests as they arrive and hand out order of services and show guests
where to sit. It is traditional for relatives and friends of the
bride to sit on the left of the aisle as you face up the church
and for the grooms relatives and friends to sit on the right.
the ceremony the ushers sit at the back of the venue , to welcome
any latecomers and also to open the door when the bridal party are
leaving at the end of the ceremony.
chief usher is responsible for greeting the mother of the Bride
and accompanying her to her place at the front of the church.